Today's weigh in was a 3.4 lb loss! It feels so great. That brings my total to 67.8 lbs GONE since January 2, 2009.
David had another phenomenal loss of 6 lbs this week for a total loss of 117.9 lbs. He's looking amazing, and is now wearing a size 38" waist jeans. His weekly loss average is about 3.5 lbs per week. Seriously, he was always so sexy to me, but oh boy...he's even looking even hotter! :)
He has lost a lot more weight than I have and, I'm going to bring this up again: it is hard sometimes. It's a hard balance to be supportive of him, but also realize that I am so much further behind him. I know it's not a race. But it's that thing I've mentioned before -- I've NEVER weighed more than him and now I weigh almost 30 lbs more than him.
I don't want to be a wife that weighs more than her husband. I mean no offense to anyone who does weigh more than their husband, but for me, well, he was always a big guy and I was always smaller than him...when we dated, when we married, and all through our years. But, while I don't want to weigh more than him, I also don't want to be a total b*tch and make him feel bad for his great loss. I refuse to do that.
Other than just that he is male and I'm female, but I understand why his loss is greater: his job is physically demanding. He's standing or active most of his day. My job has me sitting most of the day at my computer. Huge contrast there. He also eats almost exactly what I eat. I get (now, as of today) 34 pts. Our dinner plates are pretty much the same. I eat basically all my points each day and he really doesn't eat all his (I think he still gets 40 pts?) because he eats what I eat.
And in addition to all his physically aspects of his job, anytime I walk for exercise, he walks for exercise. The same miles. The same speed.
We've consulted with his doctor on his loss and while his doctor does agree that 2 lbs a week by Weight Watcher standards is best, he also says that he doesn't want him to stop what's working for him because being as obese as he was was a greater health risk than losing over the recommended weekly average. Makes sense to me. And the health benefits - related to his diabetes and asthma - have already been wonderful. He's been taken off all his diabetes medications.
I support him and I am VERY proud of him. He's totally changed his attitude about food. TOTAL change. He is working hard for it, but will tell anyone that it hasn't been as hard as he thought it would be. It's so much easier than you are really ready and really motivated. He was really ready for this change in his life and it shows.
And sometimes get (happily) emotional. While we were/are both so obese, he's the one who had a lot of health problems because of his weight. Seeing his health improve makes me so happy....and that is what I focus on any time I start to stupidly feel sorry for myself.
Next month we will have been married for 19 years and it's pretty awesome to think about what another 19 years will be like. I love him dearly and I love that we are doing this together.
Just some thoughts I had. Funny thing is that I didn't plan to blog these thoughts at all tonight - I had planned to talk more about now being able to sit in restaurant booths. Ha. Funny. It totally took off in a new direction. I'll talk about the booths next time (or maybe not...LOL). Or maybe about how I need new bras. ;)
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My husband has never had a weight problem. For several years I weighed more than him, and he is seven inches TALLER than me. That was not fun; I also felt like the guy should weigh more! He's lost a little weight and I've lost a bunch so now I think I weigh (a bit) less than him, but I think I'll never be as skinny as he is. Ah.
I love how honest you are about everything, Brandie. What a great accomplishment you've already done -- over 65 lbs!! You are an inspiration. And I have been the same way with my hubby -- he's always been the bigger one. If he were to start losing weight and weigh less than me, I am sure I'd have the same feelings as you. But you know, it won't always be this way. You will get down less than him. This is just a moment in time. Just keep focusing on what you have done. It is truly amazing. :)
First of all Brandie, GREAT JOB!! Second, try not to judge yourself in comparison to your husband especially when it comes to the speed of your weight loss...it's just different for guys.
I had a good 30 pounds on my husband at my heaviest weight and I remember when I finally weighed less than he does. Like Foodie's DH, my DH is tall and thin and never had a weight problem. At my heaviest I called us Spaghetti and Meatball LOL One thing I have come to realize is that he is small boned for a man, and I am large boned for a woman. We have very different body types. All that matters to me is that we both love ourselves and each other the way we are :-)
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